Say I want to spend say 16500 total on a used car including tax title and registration fees. Is it smart to tell the dealer "hey I want this car for 16500 including tax/title/registration" or to try to focus on just the sticker price and get that down to a point where the price of the car including after purchase fees is under my total spending limit? Thanks.

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